How to Be the Woman of his Dreams
February 13, 2008 at 12:32 am | In tips | 14 CommentsTags: relationships, tips
So you’ve managed to snag the boy of your dreams. He could be the boy next door, 
the quarterback, the intellectual or the starving artist type, it doesn’t matter. There are things that guys like that are universal.
Being in a relationship is like having a business partnership. You get less value for what you put in, (or if he gets less value than his efforts?) bad deal. If you get the exact amount of compensation from your efforts, it’s just fair. But what really wins him over, like a business partner, is the token of appreciation. These “incentives” are the little things that are usually not required, but is still nice to receive every once in a while.
You may be a queen, or a down-to-earth diva, it doesn’t even matter. What matters in a good partnership is the solidarity of the team, having the knowledge that your partner’s goals are in alignment with yours means that every time you put in that extra bit of effort, you can expect a healthy and long-lasting investment coming your way.
Men like being nurtured. This much is true. Men will be, at least once in their lives, a leader of something. As good as that sounds on paper, that means that, even for once in a man’s life, he will become a man among his peers — and lead them. That’s the way their fathers would raise them, and during those years, it is their mothers or their lovers that will give them the comfort and strength to be able to handle that burden. Cook him a meal (optional: drop by his office/school unannounced to bring lunch over), pick out some nice threads for him when you’re out shopping or send him an IM or a text to remind him how much you love him, or miss him. This would make him feel that you’re there to support his needs, and that you’re always looking out for his best interest.
Men like to dominate, and be dominated, depending on … nothing, really. Men are beautifully complicated creatures. They have arrogance streaks, as well as just “bad days.” (And they call women fickle. What’s up with that?) If you are the queen to his king, it won’t hurt to put away the crown a bit to follow his whims every so often. If you’re the down-to-earth type, however, nothing would turn a man on than showing him your strong feminine side. This shouldn’t be confused to being a strict dominatrix or subservient wench, but the sexy interchange of the two. This’d be something he wouldn’t see coming, and having a partner who knows when to be which is something a man can truly appreciate.
Men and “manlove.” However long he’s pined for you, be it months or years, you have to accept that he will have cultivated a special brotherhood with his guy friends. If he says that “he’ll be out with the boys,” you have to be secure enough with yourself that he’s not doing it to get away from you, it’s more of him getting to hang around with his friends. Admitted, us girls have this tendency to drive a wedge between him and his friends, so allowing him to have that will be a big deal. It’s no fun being the “nagging mom” who denies the kid from “coming out to play,” so being cool with guys being guys is something that he’ll be cool with. Besides, if they’re supposed to be his friends, then you will have probably have met them already. You and his friends are on the same team, looking out for your favorite man.
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Comment by kidsolo — February 13, 2008 #
Ive found that what you said about men being dominated and dominating to be very very.. true! Aside from that, men don’t like naggers/clingy/needy girls.. yes they like to be needed but too much of anything is bad
Comment by venaquipapi — February 13, 2008 #
This clearly a refreshing comment. I am very impressed with your insight.
Sorry I missed knowing you!
Comment by jwess — February 13, 2008 #
Very good points. Each one i follow very well. Why am I still single?
must be something else.
Comment by memsahib — February 13, 2008 #
Nothing about cultivating a relationship based on love between equals, then? I feel kind of sorry for you. This is like reading a women’s magazine from 1954.
Comment by therealpotato — February 13, 2008 #
Ill keep reading your blog…nice. I really like the it ! be good.
Comment by infobulgaria — February 13, 2008 #
according to my husband…the way that I kept him was by saying ‘no’
. He fell in love with me because I was myself.
Comment by Kirsten Wright — February 14, 2008 #
Very good advice.
I have actually had a woman tell me that I needed to make a choice between some of my friends or her. She did not care for my answer.
On that note, I would not recommend giving a man any ultimatum that may come across as a control tactic.
Comment by Family Photography Man — February 14, 2008 #
Good girls get jerks, good guys get bitches. Law o nature
Comment by aniche — February 14, 2008 #
I’ll always like reading about ‘how to understand man/women/..’.
What people usually do is packing everthing into categories. It’s called generalising and it’s a good thing to learn but bad if you want to make individual decisions.
Everyone is unique. And that’s a thing women and men share – like many others. So a good relationship is rather build up on knowledge about the ticks and specialities of your partner, than on features a man/woman should have.
Regards,
Comment by Ray — February 14, 2008 #
Very good post and very true.
Comment by Jason — February 14, 2008 #
It would be nice if speaked spanish.
I have a very similar tone of topics in my own blog.
But mine is in Spanish.
Nice addition to my google reader.
Regards
Comment by Pulpo — February 14, 2008 #
really impressive points to attract a woman in our life.
Comment by Mobile Master — February 16, 2008 #
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